YOURSELF WITH RESPECT
An important part of our personal development is the view we have
of our self. In fact, this is extremely important. You need to
like who you are now and have at least a similar vision of
respect for yourself as you take your chosen path.
No one can take too many steps towards their goals, dreams and
aspirations without liking the person they currently are. A lot
of this revolves around honesty.
You probably wouldn't go into the local newsagent with the view
to shoplift your favorite magazine or newspaper. It goes against
your values and standards. It is also illegal with severe
repercussions. One view of success I recently read and strictly
adhere to is "you can do anything you like as long as you
don't hurt anybody else". What an excellent analogy! In this
example, shoplifting would hurt the newsagent proprietors, as you
would be doing the wrong thing by them (and more than likely,
Similarly, you must feel comfortable using today as your starting
point to attack your life plan. Everyone needs a starting point
and today is the first day of the rest of your life. Respect can
be almost equated to esteem. To have respect for something or
someone means you hold a special regard for their talents and/or
abilities. This special regard reflects your very own values and
standards. It also shares what you believe in and, in part, what
you see or would like to see in yourself.
Quite often, we see traits in others we think the world of, but
don't really give it a second thought that we could possess these
very traits ourself. Unfortunately, many can only see these good
points in others. They either fail to look at what they have
themselves or what they can do to acquire these traits they have
the utmost respect for.
For example, when I first went into telephone sales a number of
years ago, my team leader/boss at the time possessed incredible
talents on the telephone. The job involved cold calling the
Marketing Directors of various companies throughout Europe
selling advertising space to different industries.
His power of persuasion was magic. His enthusiasm was electric.
His sincerity sung through his sales pitch with bells on. On top
of all this he had a firm belief in what he was selling and stood
behind it 100%. This ensured customer satisfaction was delivered
as he promised it would be. His talents have made him a rather
wealthy man. I respect him incredibly. I tuned in to his methods.
I listened to him, gradually learning his techniques. I used them
and developed them to better suit my style. As I did this, I
began succeeding at the same tasks he was already doing. Hey,
everything is easy... once you know how!
Had I not been of the belief that I could do any of it and simply
asked him to close my deals for me, I would never have succeeded.
To develop your abilities you need to have faith in yourself; a
belief that you can is a necessity. You also need to have as much
respect for yourself as you do for your mentor. This goes back to
what we said earlier, "You must like who you are
You must look in the mirror and be proud. If you are combing your
hair one morning, take a moment to stare at yourself. Doing this
should create a moment of honesty. You may briefly feel
uncomfortable. Deal with it and look further. What do you think?
Is this person cool? Does this person repulse you? Does this
person have what it takes to deliver on large commitments to you?
This has everything to do with self-confidence. It is beyond the
scope of this report to delve deeply into this aspect, as it is
noteworthy of an entire book in itself. It may be something I can
put together for you in the future. Self-confidence affects every
one of us and if you can't look at yourself and be proud, then
you are the person you are hurting. It will obstruct your growth
and hold you back. Negative self-image must be overcome to
You are where you are today due to your previous decisions.
Concentrate on the positives - develop them further. Minimize the
negatives - they are killers! You deserve respect! You have read
this far! You know how important it really is! Those people, you
don't respect, are those that you will have little to do with.
Since you'll be spending a lot of time with yourself, it makes
good sense to respect this person. It's all about knowing and
understanding who and what you are. We have already mentioned how
much this has to do with honesty. It's about being very honest
with yourself. You will find a proportional link between honesty
© Darren Roberts
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